Wednesday, March 13, 2013

Upcoming Webinar

TAKING CARE OF YOUR EMOTIONAL HEALTH:
What Parents Need to Know Pre- and Post- AdoptionFeaturing Karen Foli, nurse, author, and adoptive parent
Thursday, March 14 • 8-9 p.m. (EST)
 
 
When the months or years of adoption preparation and anticipation culminate in the moment of bringing a child home, sometimes eager expectations and reality collide. It is important for adoptive parents to prepare for the wide range of emotions they may experience after adoption and to know how to take care of their emotional health.
Karen Foli, RN, PhD, author of The Post-Adoption Blues, is an assistant professor at Purdue University where her research is focused on individuals whose lives have been touched by adoption. She is particularly interested in exploring transitions with new adoptive parents. Her goal is to strengthen adoptive families.
Register @ www.bethanylifelines.org

Monday, March 11, 2013

Birth Order: What Difference Does it Make?


Birth Order:

What Difference Does it Make?

Date: March 20, 2013

Time: 10:00 a.m. to 12:00 noon

Location: Montgomery County Children and Youth Service Building; 1430 DeKalb

Street, Norristown, PA; Community Room

Description: Can birth order really make an impact on a person's personality or how he

or she views life? Can it impact our parenting and how we parent our children? Can

simply being born first, second, or third be a predictor for future success? Come to this

training to explore the basic premises of Alfred Adler's theory of personality development

and the possible impact of birth order. Adoption professionals often suggest families not

disrupt the birth order of their family and this training will take a basic look at why this

is important and if a family chooses to adopt outside of their family's traditional birth

order, strategies on making the adoption and adjustment successful.

Presenters:

Karen Mummau, MSW, LSW is currently an adoption and permanency worker at

Bethanna in Lancaster. Mrs. Mummau has worked in various child welfare venues to include group

homes, the Virginia public schools, with pregnant teens, as well as with International and Domestic infant

adoptions. She obtained her Bachelor of Social Worker degree at Ferrum College in Virginia and

her Masters of Social Worker Degree from Virginia

Commonwealth University in Richmond, VA.

Kelly Myers, MSW, LSW is an adoption supervisor at

Bethanna in Lancaster, Pennsylvania. Mrs. Myers has

worked in the child welfare field for twenty years and has

experience in child abuse investigation, foster care and

adoption from both private and public agencies. She earned

her Bachelors Degree from the Pennsylvania State University

in 1992 and went on to earn her Masters in Social Work

from West Chester University in 2004 and obtain her

professional license in social work.

 

We are happy to invite you to Nancy Thomas' latest Webinar: Connecting Heart to Heart with a Challenging Child. As always, Nancy will give you a 60 minute, information packed, fun filled Webinar. Best of all, you can attend from the comfort of your own home. Join Nancy at 7:00PM (MT) on March 13, 2013.
Do you have one or more challenging children?
Are you frazzled at the end of each day?
Are the other members of your family suffering?
With over 35 years experience working with challenging children and their families, Nancy is in a position to help you. She knows what it takes to form bonds with these tough kids. She knows your pain and how just the smallest step forward gives new hope to your family. Nancy is so happy to share her methods and advice backed by years of experience.
You do not have to wait for a Nancy Thomas Seminar to be scheduled near you. You can attand this fun and fact filled webinar right in the comfort of your home. Join Nancy on March 13, 2013 at 7:00PM (MT) for Connecting Heart to Heart with a Challenging Child. Reserve your seat for $25 by registering at www.instantpresenter.com/ntparenting Seats are limited.
As a BONUS one live audience member will be selected at random to receive Nancy's newest DVD -- Terrific Tools for Teachers.
If you have any question you would like Nancy to answer during the webinar or if you have any difficulty registering please email judyh@attachment.org. Questions for the webinar should be submitted no later than March 13th at 9AM (MT). Nancy will attempt to answer all submitted questions in the webinar.

Sincerely,

Nancy Thomas
Families By Design | | familiesbydesign.thomas@gmail.com | http://www.attachment.org
PO Box 2812
Glenwood Springs, CO 81602

Wednesday, February 20, 2013

What: If You Were Mine Workshop
 
 
Where: Sovereign Grace Church, 111 Greentree Road, Marlton, NJ 08053
When: Friday, March 22 from 6:30-9:30pm & Saturday, March 23 from 9:00am-2:00pm.
Cost: The course materials and meals are covered by our church! But child care is not provided.
 
For more information, please contact:  ps82oci@gmail.com

Friday, February 15, 2013


 

 
Please join us on

Saturday, March 2nd 6:30 p.m.


Maranatha Christian Fellowship • 802 N. Lenola Road • Moorestown, NJ



Come join with us as Cheryl Nitz, ACSW, LCSW Accomplished attachment/bonding therapist with the Attachment Bonding Center of Pa will be our guest speaker. Her topic for the evening “Adoption-Not What we expected”!


Following the presentation, you’ll have an opportunity to ask questions to our panel. We’ll have desserts and spend some time in fellowship. It will be wonderful seeing everyone again and catch up!


Please let me know by phone at 856-234-3791, or by e-mail at secchanc@aol.com, if you can join us so we know how much to prepare for. And, of course, childcare will be provided.



 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 
 

 

 

 

 

 

                                                                                      

Thursday, November 29, 2012

Interim Care Meeting- Short Term Options to Care for Kids



Just a reminder that this Sunday we will be hosting an interim care meeting for individuals and families interested in learning more about short-term options for caring for kids. Anyone is invited to attend.

The meeting is at Sovereign Grace Church and will begin at 12:30pm after the main service.

We'll have representatives from three organizations there. Click on their name to be redirected to their site for more information about each organization.



CASA of New Jersey is a non-profit organization helping children in the foster care system. "In New Jersey, more than 1,800 Court Appointed Special Advocate (CASA) volunteers, worked within a network of local, county-based CASA Programs to ensure that nearly 3,000 children, who are victims of physical, sexual, and psychological abuse, or outright abandonment, have a voice in the court proceedings that impact their future. CASA volunteers advocate for these children, making sure that they are safe, that they get the services they need, and that they are returned to their parents or placed in a nurturing, permanent home as quickly, and with as few moves as possible."

Anyone over the age of 21 can apply to be a CASA.



Department of Child Protection and Permanency of New Jersey will be represented. We've asked the social worker to share about options for families to do short-term foster child placements in their homes.



Bethany Christian Services will have a representative present to talk about options to help with interim care through their private non-profit organization.

Sunday, November 18, 2012

Eight Adoption Facts That May Surprise You

Check out this video to give you a new insight into the orphan crisis.

http://www.youtube-nocookie.com/embed/ExUk0kxD-4s?rel=0

Tuesday, November 6, 2012

All God’s Children Ministry – Fellowship Alliance - Red Barn
Friday, November 16, 7-9pm
Making Sense of it All: Helping Adopted Children Understand Who They Are
This presentation highlights some of the essential elements that parents and professionals must focus on in order to truly connect with the child they love and serve. These elements include understanding their story, their losses, their expectations, their needs, and their heart. The presentation also features interview footage of adopted teens sharing aspects of their own stories.
After viewing this video presentation, Adrianna Willey, a trained adoption counselor will lead us in a discussion time

Thursday, November 1, 2012

What Orphans Need:  Christians Who Live in the Delight of Their Father's Love
Dan Cruver

When Christians are unsure of their Father’s delight in them, real Christian joy is absent and passionate Christian living is lacking. It is almost impossible (if not entirely impossible) to mobilize Christians who are unsure of God’s delight in them to care for orphans over the long haul, or at least to mobilize Christians who will serve orphans with unflappable confidence and joy.
When Jesus was about to go public with the mission of God, his Father declared over him, “This is My beloved Son, with whom I am well pleased” (Matthew 3:17). As Scripture makes clear, Jesus had been sent to fulfill the Father’s mission to redeem humanity and renew creation—which includes, by the way, the removal of the word “orphan” from the human vocabulary. The Gospel writers tell us that God’s Son went forward with the mission of his Father in the strength and knowledge of his Father’s delight (Matthew 3:17; Mark 1:11; Luke 3:22).
Dr. C.F.W. Walther, a pastor who lived in the 1800′s, wrote: “Every Christian may apply to himself the declaration of God: ‘This is My beloved Son, in whom I am well pleased.’” As God’s children, not only do we have the privilege of participating in His mission to redeem and renew creation, we also do so in the strength and knowledge of our Father’s delight.
What orphans need are churches that are full of people who wake up each morning hearing and rehearsing these amazing words that are declared over them. “You are my beloved child, in whom I am well pleased. Yes, you were once without hope and without God in this world, but I have brought you near by the blood of Jesus. I have embraced you in the Beloved. Live in my love as you move out in mission.”
If you are a Christian, God declares these amazing words over you. He doesn’t speak them over you because you have earned them. You could never do enough to earn these words of love. God speaks these words over you because of who Jesus is for you.
As I’ve already mentioned, when God the Father spoke these words over His Son (Matthew 3:17), it was the day that Jesus launched his public messianic ministry. As our Messiah, Jesus was the faithful Son who always did the will of his Father. Never once did he disobey or disappoint Him. All of his living, from his birth in the manger to his death on the cross, was perfect in thought, word, deed, and motive. His missional life was perfectly lived, and he lived it as our Messiah. This means, among many other things, that the words that were spoken over him on that wonderful day are also spoken over us today.
Living as Christians in mission—in other words, being the church—involves learning to live each day knowing that God the Father delights in us even as He delights in Jesus. Those who learn to live in the reality of God’s loving pleasure will find that circumstances no longer control them. They will find that they are able to deal with the difficulties of a missional life with confidence and humility. To be adopted by God is to enter into a family relationship where all of God’s children are treated even as He treats His Beloved Son. If we are confident that we are being loved by God like this, we will not only desire to love others like we are loved, we will also be empowered and compelled to do so.
Imagine the impact that churches would have upon the global orphan crisis if they were filled with people who moved forward in mission in the strength and knowledge of their Father’s delight. Just imagine.
What orphans need are communities of missional Christians (churches) who live in the joy of their Father’s delight

Monday, October 22, 2012

Alliance Webinar Series
The Christian Alliance for Orphans Webinar Series is designed to help individuals like you create and grow effective adoption, foster care and global orphan ministry in local churches.
You're Invited...

FAS and NAS: Alcohol and
Drug Related Birth Defects
This webinar will explain FASD and NAS and offer an introductory view of their implications for the life of a family. It will discuss symptoms, assessments, the school system, daily life, and how they effect the brain. This will be a great session for those who have children affected or those that are considering adopting a child with alcohol or drug related effects. It will address many of the fears and give a real life picture of what raising children with FAS and NAS really is like. Join this session to better equip yourself to love and serve these children and families affected by FAS/NAS in your own communities and congregations.

The webinar will be led by Amanda Preston--adoptive and foster mom to 6 (several of whom are affected with FAS) and night student working towards a B.S. in Social Work.
Presenter: Amanda Preston, Speaker and Adoptive/Foster Mom

NOTE NEW DATE & TIME
Date: TUESDAY, October 30, 2012 Time: 1:00 PM Eastern
Each 60-minute webinar in this series will give local advocates access to the knowledge and experience of top Alliance member churches and organizations nationwide, covering key topics on adoption, foster care and/or global orphan care. Every webinar will be hosted by a local church orphan ministry and co-presented by one or more national experts on the subject matter. This pairing will deliver a combination of specialist information and resources alongside a “here’s how it works in a real church” perspective.

Thursday, October 18, 2012

You Can't Manufacture Orphan Care
Jason Johnson

There are certain things in churches we can create that people will participate in – i.e. worship services, pot-luck dinners, small groups, children’s ministries and basketball leagues. Whether God is in those activities or not is irrelevant to our ability to implement them and expect participation. Of course, the hope is that God is in them, and that lives are changed as a result of them. The sad reality, however, is that some things in churches can function even if He’s not.
There are also things in churches that quite frankly cannot be manufactured. Only God can do them. They are very different than standing on stage and inviting people to sign up for the church basketball team or Wednesday night’s pot-luck dinner. There’s certain things that quite simply cannot function if God is not in them. Only God can stir so mightily in a person’s heart that they would sell everything they have and move overseas to take the Gospel to unreached people groups. You can’t manufacture that. Only God could move among families and communities of people for the sake of rallying around the cause of abused, marginalized and orphaned children, opening their homes and reorienting their lives around foster care and adoption. You don’t just sign up in the bulletin for that one.

When we planted Woodlands Point Community Church 4 years ago, orphan care was not on our radar. Not that we were against it, it’s just that we had no idea God had that in store for us. If you had told us then what God would be doing now we would not have believed it. But God has done something we never imagined He would, and He continues to do something we could have never created or manufactured on our own. Through the context of dozens of families partnering together for the cause of the orphan, and many more joining in along the way, The Orphan Care Network has formed and thrived for the sake of resourcing, supporting and celebrating the calling of God on His people to care for orphans.
The question we are most often asked, and the story we most often hear, is: “We want to get an orphan care ministry started in our church. We share statistics with people about orphans and tell stories of what their lives are like, but nothing seems to be working. How did you start yours?”
Our answer, quite simply is: “We didn’t, but God did.”
While we certainly do not have it all figured out, and are by no means experts, what we have found to be far more powerful and compelling than getting statistics, pictures and stories about orphans into our people’s heads, is first getting the Gospel of their adoption through Jesus into their hearts. The story of our being adopted into the family of God through the person and work of Jesus is the only reliable and sustainable source of motivation towards caring for orphans. The fact that Jesus would so long to rescue us who were orphaned in our sin and go to such great lengths to bring us into the eternally loving home of the Father is what stirs in many and drives them to demonstrate the same. One of the clearest ways to tangibly demonstrate the Gospel is through the care of orphans – unconditionally loving the isolated and fatherless and unwaveringly ensuring for them a forever home they can call their own. This is the Gospel. Only God can do that.

Orphan care doesn’t begin with the orphan “out there” who needs to be adopted, it begins with the orphan in you that already has been adopted in Jesus. Until our peoples’ identities are rooted in the Gospel of their adoption, our petition to them to demonstrate that powerful truth through the care of orphans will feel forced and manufactured at best. The inevitable fact of ministry is that you are going to be busy, but you have a choice over what things you will be busy doing. Our commitment is to be busy stewarding well what God is doing, not busy manufacturing what He’s not doing and trying to figure out ways to spin it as if He is. At the end of the day, the most all-consuming, eternal, Jesus-exalting things worth giving ourselves to are the things God is doing by His power in a way that only He can do. You simply can’t “spin” orphan care.

The call to care for orphans begins with the Gospel, is sustained and carried by the Gospel, and in the end is one of the clearest and most tangible expressions of the Gospel to a world full of isolated, outcast, abused and orphaned sinners.
So, in light of the question “How can we start?”, here are two primary things you can do right now to begin cultivating a heart for orphans within your church community:
    First, preach the Gospel of our adoption through Jesus to your people over and over and over and over again. Ask God to stir something in your people and drive them to tangibly demonstrate the power of the Gospel in ways that you could never create or manufacture on your own.
    Serve those in your city who are already caring for orphans. Before you expect people to foster and/or adopt children, encourage them to serve those in your area who are already doing so. Orphan care isn’t just about bringing children into your home, it is just as much about serving, supporting and caring for those who do. Get creative. Mow their lawns, or start a resource closet with clothes, food and other supplies, give financially, become CPR certified so you can babysit foster kids, etc. There are a variety of ways to care for orphans by caring for those who are caring for orphans.

Wednesday, October 17, 2012

The Story of the Gospel in Orphan Care
by Jason Johnson


Several months ago a newborn baby girl entered our lives and changed us forever. She was born the victim of heinous abuse, the defenseless recipient of an agregious crime. On what would have normally been just another Wednesday night, we now sat at the kitchen table signing papers with child protective services while she slept peacefully nearby in the living room, wholly unaware of the events unfolding around her.
Who we are and who we will forever be changed the night she arrived at our home. Not merely because our family dynamic was changing or our lifestyle would require shifting by bringing an additional child into our home. Our story changed because her story interjected itself into it. Up until that moment, our ideas about caring for orphans were less aware of the story of the orphan and more aware of our own. We would pull a child out of a bad situation and bring them into our good one. We would rescue them from their broken story and offer them a better, healthier one…ours. The end goal was always to leave the darkness of their story behind and move on to a brighter one, with us.

Months later, we have found orphan care to be something entirely different and unexpected. Her story runs deep, beyond her short life and tiny, now healthy frame. She’s happy and healthy, so much so that the brutality of where she came from is often lost behind the beauty of her vibrant smile now. But her story, no matter how broken its inception may have been, will always be an integral part of who she is, so it must become a part of who we are as well. To truly love her, to truly offer hope and life and opportunity that transcends the chaos of where she came from, we must be willing to embrace where she came from and step foot into it as our own. We can’t just love where she is now, we must also love where she came from with a hope for redemption and a desperate longing for restoration. This is what real love does. This is what Jesus did for us.
Scripture says that Jesus is God with us (Matthew 1:23), that He took on flesh to dwell among us (John 1:14), that He took on our sin in our place (2 Corinthians 5:21) by embracing the poverty of our depravity and replacing it with the riches of His glory (2 Corinthians 8:9). Jesus loved us by first engaging with us in our sin. He rescued us by taking our story upon Himself and making it His own. He pulled us out of the story of our brokenness by first willingly and humbly being pulled into it. This is the Gospel…the Gospel of our adoption. Jesus came to save us into a fuller and more glorious reality with Himself by first submitting Himself to the oppression and weight of our broken reality. He carried that brokenness to the Cross, or perhaps, in some sense, that brokenness carried Him.
Orphan care is just as much about pulling a child out of a broken story as it is about you being pulled into one. That’s what Jesus did for us, so that’s what we must do for these children.

It’s about embracing the stories of unexpected pregnancies, failed abortions, drug addicted babies, heinously beaten and abused children. It’s about engaging and loving an unfamiliar world that’s outside of your own but still very much a part the human experience. For us, it’s about loving the absent father and beaten down mother of our baby girl who can’t seem to shake the demons that are continually destroying them. It’s about sitting across a deliberation table from mom when the court informs her that her parental rights will be terminated. It’s about watching her weep in that moment over her own brokenness and battles that are causing her to lose her baby. It’s about wanting to wipe away her tears of disappoint and pain and loneliness, and whisper quietly to her, “Everything’s going to be ok.”
In those moments you are thrust into a story that is much deeper than the fairy tale that orphan care and adoption are often made out to be. You find yourself pulled out of your own story and into the awful reality of another. You find yourself broken over the brokenness of another mom and another dad, who just like you wrestle with their own demons and sin. You find yourself loving them in a way you never knew possible. You find yourself realizing this is the way Jesus loves you.
The Gospel is not a fairy tale. It’s the messy, dirty, chaotic story of Jesus interjecting Himself into our brokenness and sitting at the table as the reality of our sin unloads its inevitable consequences upon us. This is where the care of orphans truly begins – in the depths of a story that can only be redeemed by the power of Jesus in the Gospel.
To truly love the orphan we must love as Jesus does. He goes beneath our sin and behind our brokenness and walks with us in the darkness of our story in order to set us free into a brighter and more beautiful one. Caring for orphans begins long before an orphan comes into your home. It starts with a fractured and convoluted story in which an innocent child plays the unwilling participant. It begins with our willingness to step foot into the darkness, not just to rescue a child out of it but to bring light into it.
Orphan care is not a fairy tale because the Gospel is not a fairy tale. It’s a messy but beautiful demonstration of the love of Jesus in action. This is the hard reality of where orphan care begins, where it takes you, what it requires of you and how it will break you.

In the end, the story of the Gospel in orphan care is as much about rescuing a child as it is about being rescued by one. It’s as much about adopting an orphan as it is about being adopted by one. It’s about writing a new story of hope and opportunity between the lines of an old story of brokenness and despair. It’s about seeing the love of Jesus towards you in your love towards a helpless child, and being rescued all over again by the beautiful story of your redemption out of darkness and into His marvelous light.


Thursday, September 27, 2012

Orphan Sunday Event Idea



Experiences impact us more deeply than words.

On Orphan Sunday, share a meal eaten by orphans around the world.
Gather with family, small group or church for the meal, discussion and prayer.
When you request The Orphan’s Table, they will ship you:
An easy-to-cook meal package and an Orphan Sunday Prayer & Discussion Guide

Free Advent Devotional Guide from Buckner






Advent celebrates the coming of the Savior, a period of expectant waiting and preparation both for the birth and earthly ministry of Christ and for His imminent return.

This year, Buckner is offering a special way to celebrate and anticipate Christ with a daily devotional guide written by those who serve the "least of these" to take you through the Advent season.

The 2012 Buckner Advent Devotional Guide is free of charge. Click here to reserve your copies today and they'll mail them to you between Nov. 2 and Nov. 16.

You can also sign up to receive daily devotional emails in your inbox each morning. Click here to sign up.

Monday, September 10, 2012







Thursday, September 13th:

Tenth Avenue North Concert
Located: TD Bank Arts Centre in Sewell, NJ
Time: 7pm
Get tickets at: www.tdbankarts.com

Proceeds from this event benefit Bethany Christian Services of the Greater Delaware Valley

Webinar: Adoption & Classroom Success



Presents...
Adoption and Classroom Success: Beyond the Basics
NEW WEBINAR! RESERVE YOUR SPOT TODAY!

Circumstances prior to adoption often cause children to experience school in a different framework than other kids.
Join us for a discussion with Heather T. Forbes, LCSW as she presents tips and strategies on how to help your child be more successful at school, and ease some of the stress at home. Heather will cover:
  • How to smooth school related transitions
  • Helping teachers understand what is driving a child's negative behavior
  • How to increase your child's motivation to succeed at school

Submit your questions for Heather HERE or by tweeting them to @adoptiontweet using #ALPSchool

Thursday, September 6, 2012

Reminder!




Adoption/Orphan Care Gathering




Where: The Treehouse Coffee Shop, 120 Merchant Ave., Audubon, NJ


When: Saturday, September 8, 2012; 7-8:30 pm


Cost: $5.00 per person


Includes dessert, fruit, veggies, coffee and tea





Have you ever considered special needs adoption? Ever wondered what “real life” is like post-adoption? Please join us to hear Amy and Adam Boroughs share their awesome story of God’s faithfulness in their lives.


Amy and Adam have been married for eighteen years and are the parents of ten children. Seven of their children joined their family through the miracle of adoption, representing four different countries, and all have special needs. Adam and Amy could have never imagined the adventure God had planned for their lives or the unique family He would give them!



 

Saturday, September 1, 2012

Somewhere Between

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In profiling Chinese adoptees in contemporary America, Linda Goldstein Knowlton has created a deeply moving documentary illustrating that even the most specific of experiences can be universally relatable. Of the roughly 80,000 girls who have been adopted from China since 1989—a decade after China implemented its One Child Policy—the film intimately follows four teenagers: Haley, Jenna, Ann, and Fang. These four wise-beyond-their-years, yet typical American teens, reveal a heartbreaking sense of self-awareness as they attempt to answer the uniquely human question, “Who am I?” They meet and bond with other adoptees, some journey back to China to reconnect with the culture, and some reach out to the orphaned girls left behind. In their own ways, all attempt to make sense of their complex identities. Issues of belonging, race, and gender are brought to life through these articulate subjects, who approach life with honesty and open hearts.
Learn more about this movie or order tickets.

God, Are You Nice or Mean?: Trusting God . . . After the Orphanage

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Through a journey of joys, tears, struggle and hopelessness, Debra Delulio Jones found herself shaking her fist in the air and screaming, "God, are You nice or mean?"

Her adopted son didn't know how to trust in the love of his parents due to his early abandonment and attachment issues. In his confusion he would ask, "Mommy, are you nice or mean?" As Debra learned ways to connect to her son, she realized a twenty year course in clinging to God paralleled her parenting journey.

She came to understand that her doubts about God were rooted in fear and pain, just like her son's maladaptive behaviors.



















 

Saturday, August 18, 2012

The Real Issue with Pat Robertson's Comments


Electric responses—from sorrow to anger—are lighting up blogosphere in response to comments by Pat Robertson on The 700 Club about the risk that adopted kids could turn out “weird” due to the prior abuse, medical issues and other baggage they might carry.

I can’t help feeling that most all of the reactions I’ve seen, from dismay to indignation, are justified. But it also strikes me that the primary problem with what Robertson said lies deeper. The main issue isn’t just another foot-in-my-mouth statement that reveals ignorance or insensitivity. We all can certainly fall prey to saying dumb and hurtful things. Nor is it that Robertson seems hyper-attuned to potential challenges of adoption. Truth be told, that’s a theme adoption advocates would do well to do a better job emphasizing also.

What’s most at issue is our understanding of discipleship—and of Christianity itself.
Intended or not, Robertson’s statement implies an assumption affirmed daily by most every TV talking head, religious or not: if something might turn out to be disappointing to you, or painful, or less than you’d hoped…you have every reason to avoid it.

This may represent great pop psychology, but nothing could be further from the call of Christ. Yes, Jesus instructed potential disciples to count the cost of following him. But that was precisely because he knew he was calling them to embrace a cross, not to avoid it. To find true life, Jesus said, we must stand ready to lose life. Lose comfort. Lose control. Lose convenience.

This always has been and always will be the road of the disciple.

Such choices do begin with a thoughtful, even deliberative, process of understanding risks and costs. And (if this even needs to be said), discipleship never requires a reckless pursuit of difficulty as an end in itself. But ultimately, any serious response to the call of Christ will involve real, hard-to-swallow costs—and with those costs, unparalleled rewards, some in this life and some in the next.
That’s true of adoption and foster care and global work with orphans…and, quite honestly, any expression of true discipleship.

Thankfully, faithful Christians in every age have embraced this cost. This is why, as Russell Moore’s penetrating response to Robertson’s comments explains:

Christians are the ones who have stood against the prophets of Baal and the empire of Rome and every other satanic system to say that a person’s worth doesn’t consist in his usefulness. Christians are the ones who picked up abandoned babies, who wiped drool from the dying elderly, who joyfully received developmentally disabled children, and who recognized that our own sin has made us nothing noble or powerful. We’re all just dead and damaged and, well, “weird.” But Jesus loved us anyway.

One other moving response to Robertson came from Tim and Wendy McMahan. They express their own tender answer to the woman (whose boyfriend who didn’t want to marry her because of her adopted children), whose question first spurred Robertson’s statement:
My dear sister, thank you for taking up the plight of the orphan. You are beautifully living out God’s call on your life and your treasures are being stored in a place where they will never burn. We were promised that we would face trials when we took on this life of discipleship. Your hope for companionship may be the sacrifice that you are offering to God on behalf of your children. It is among the most fragrant of all sacrifices. I pray that God would give you a husband that shares your passion for these little ones. If not, I pray that none of your trials are ever as difficult as this one. When you feel rejection, consider it pure joy; for you do your Father’s work. Lord please comfort this woman and pour out your blessings in her life. Give her more than she could ever imagine. If she cannot have a husband give her a taste of the beauty of your sanctuary so that she may endure.
The road of discipleship will look markedly different for every believer, but it will most certainly include all of these elements. Sorrow and joy. Costs and rewards. Trials and beauty. A call to anything less is not the call of Christ.

Jedd Medefind, Christian Alliance for Orphans